Who Do You Want To Be In Your Life?

I came home a while ago and my husband, Vj, was in the middle of something.  In an instant, there was friction between us.  I went away and sulked for about 30 seconds before I made a decision to not try figure out what happened, but to just go and clean it up.

I waited until he was done with his project.  Then I went to him and said, “I don’t know what is going on, but I think that I am looking for reasons to get my feelings hurt.”  I got real, and I got really vulnerable.

Vj and I talk in times of harmony about what is effective in times of disharmony.  Because of those talks, he knows exactly what works with me when I am a little off center, so he knew what to do.

Vj looked up, crossed the room, and enveloped me in his arms.  He then apologized for specific things that may or may not have contributed to the friction.  He took full accountability for his participation, even though in hindsight, I don’t think that he had done anything wrong.

Lately, I have heard several very evolved people talk about their humanity and how they overcome ego.

I am much inspired! They each spoke about being in a situation that was unpleasant and that they resisted it, for a time.  Then, because they live an examined life, they asked themselves, “Who do I want to be in this moment?” and found that there was an immediate sense of relief.

Reconnecting with your higher purpose is an amazing tool.  I am able to do so when I make certain that all of my tanks are full.

One of my goals this year is to: Open my heart to failure, vulnerability, and rejection with faith, trust, and courage.  I am not inviting failure, vulnerability, and rejection. I am making a commitment that I won’t let the fear of them hold me back from anything. 

Your Homework:

Who are you committed to being?  Decide what qualities that you want to embody and what kind of impact that will have on the world.  Then, write them down and keep them near.  When trouble hits, you can ask yourself, “Who do I want to be in this situation?” and you can consult your list!  As always, let me know how it goes.

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