What is Your Brick Wall?

When we get out there and create relationships of any nature, things can go awry. Whether we know it or not, we all speak a different language. The culture of one’s upbringing often doesn’t match the culture of another’s. That can even sometimes be true in the same family!

The old saying “be careful what you wish for,” rings very true for me these days. I had recently felt my heart cry out for leadership skills. While my mind wasn’t so sure, my heart’s desire was far stronger.

This cry brought about a situation where I had to be firm and loving. It was very clear that I what I had to do would be unpopular. Who likes to be unpopular? Not me!

Even more, I was in completely unchartered territory for me. I had never experienced this type of situation.

I was confronted on a very basic level with wanting to maintain harmony at the cost of my integrity. The problem was, if the community was to flourish, I had to lead and by leading, which would upset someone.

John Maxell says that character-driven people do right, then feel good.

What? This means that if I want to lead, I get to (not have to) walk through the fear or discomfort of annoying someone in order to do the right thing.

This is what is called living by character, not by emotions.

I have done this to a lesser degree before, but it seems that this particular situation had significantly raised the stakes!

Well, I lived to tell the tale and as Vj said, “It felt like I had to walk through a brick wall before I did it. Afterwards, I realized it was only smoke.”

Here are some of the tools that I used to get through this sticky situation:

1. I performed from the assumption that communication would bring clarity.

2. When I saw that the obstacles were bigger than the above, I breathed and asked for more guidance from spirit.

3. I took time to listen, listen, and listen some more.

4. I wore confidence in my heart.

5. When things got heated up, I interjected and mirrored back what I was experiencing to see if it was aligned with the general perception.

6. I explicitly moved the topic away from hostility and toward solution.

7. I did the best I could!

In the end, there was some peace. Time will tell how soon harmony will be restored.

What I do know is that the next time I am in a situation like that, I will respond from a place of experience and therefore, it might simply feel like walking through molasses!

Your Assignment:

In these uncertain times, we must cultivate awareness and steadfastness. What scary thing can you do today that will train yourself to become your highest self, steady in uncertainty, and ready to lead?

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