The Key to EVERY Problem?! Really?!!

I have found that anytime I am upset with my husband, or anyone else for that matter, is when I am in a position of TAKER not GIVER. What that looks like it this: if I am upset with Vj or someone else, it is because I feel like I am not getting my way or what my ego thinks that I “deserve.”

It doesn’t matter how out of bounds someone is acting! If I can be in my integrity, knowing that I am complete and whole regardless of the outcome, I can approach any situation form a higher and neutral plane.

When I am upset, it gives me an indicator that something is out of alignment. When I get really upset, it means that I am CONTINUING to not get what I want and that just fuels the fire. When I can come from a place of service, that is an attitude of: “What can I bring to this situation?” or “What lesson is here for us?”

Two great ways to keep centered no-matter-what are:

1. Give your mate the DIGNITY OF THEIR EXPERIENCE. Allow them to make a mess if necessary. You don’t know the big picture and the lessons that they need to learn.

2. Know that you may be on the “business end” of someone else’s mistake. That means that you may be a bit of collateral damage as they are ungraceful. You may give yourself permission to remove yourself from harm’s way.

Your Turn:

Can you allow someone the dignity of their experience and let them be messy? In every area of your life including: traffic, children, boss, soul mate?  Can you do it without you getting involved or hurt?

 

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